Empowered Dating
First dates can be stressful. What do I wear, what will I say, how will he be, etc. Turn this drama into fun “empowered dating.” Whatever you do before the date, dress, work out, do this for you, not him. Feel fabulous about you. Keep this thought in your mind: Is he worthy of the hotness that is you? Does he treat you like a lady? Does he say things to you that raise a little red flag? If he says something you don’t like, tell him. Order whatever you want. Thank him for a lovely evening. Below is an example of a recent date. It addresses the above issues. I have included tips in italics that help you effortlessly steer the wheel in dating. You’re in the drivers’ seat ladies! So let’s start driving the car.
Last night I met “A” at a lovely tavern that features live music. We sit and I’m hungry. I’d like to share something. Sharing is fun.
Me: Would you like to split something?
A: Sure, whatever you’d like.
Me: How about the cheese tray.
His expression was priceless.
Not a cheese tray guy. (Lesson #1: Order exactly what you want. Not what you think you should be ordering on a date) He says sure to the cheese tray. Good, witty conversation. He’s interested in every aspect of my life. We get to him. He talks a bit, but it becomes very clear that he’s lonely.
A: I just want to meet someone, anyone to spend time with. (Lesson #2: This is a red flag. Do you want to be Miss Anyone?)
Me: (I smile warmly…remember to play) and say “We’ll that’s flattering!”
A: No no, that’s not what I meant. (Lesson #3: Yes it is. He was caught and back pedaled in a way that said “Gotcha!” to me)
I let this go…for now.
More conversation about how lonely and hard it is to be single.
I tell him that people should focus on the good in their lives. A lot of single people look at the coupled people and want that. Then they pick someone “just to be in a relationship” and a lot are miserable and settling. The married people yearn for the freedom of the single people. If we’re constantly looking for the good in our lives, we’re focused on good and not “the what ifs” “if onlys” and “I so wish I had this.” (Lesson #4: Express your opinion. Even if it’s something he may not agree with)
He agrees but continues his lonely tangent. I’m understanding. I encounter so much loneliness everyday. That’s why I want to bring back laughter, fun and play into our lives. (Lesson #5: Communicate. Dating is not just about him. This is about you and your pleasure. I’m not going to be “Miss Anyone” for this lonely guy. I want respect, fun, play, laughter. I don’t want to hang out with a guy who’s going to be a downer all the time. I’m going to communicate this to him, see his reaction, and see if he produces by his actions. If not…I’ll move on to another prospect, and not think about it one more minute. Unless it helps you, gorgeous!)
“A” wants to know what I’m doing this weekend. I’m booked. I don’t divulge too much information. I tell him that on Friday night I’m watching my favorite TV show. He can’t believe I would rather sit home and watch TV than go on a date with him. (Lesson #6: Don’t give your stuff up for a man…it’s your stuff!) It’s time to go. I know he’s going to ask me out again.
A: Would you like to go out again?
Me: Maybe…(with a smile)
A: Oh…man…
Me: I didn’t say no…
A: That’s true…
Me: Listen…I have a request.
A: Okay.
Me: If I go out with you again, I want to play more. You went on quite a tangent on how you want anyone to spend time with. I’m not going to settle for being “any” girl. It’s like me saying to you on the first date: My biological clock is ticking. How can we get this moving so A B and C can occur as soon as possible? That would turn you off wouldn’t it? Do you understand what I’m saying to you?
A: Yes…I’m sorry I didn’t mean to be such a downer.
(Lesson #7: Do not let something that turns you off go. Communicate clearly and unemotionally. ) Cut the man some slack. He could have made an honest mistake due to nerves. He listened to what I had to say. He followed up on it first thing this morning in an email:
Hi Sharon,
It was a pleasure sharing your passion and energy last night. It would be nice to play together again. Except Friday at 10PM. Enjoy the Sci-Fi…
Best Wishes,
“A”
Does driving the car sound fun to you ladies? Women have so much power over men. They don’t realize the fun they could be having. Loving yourself, knowing exactly what you want and clear communication are keys a fantastic love life.
Love, Goddess
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If you are going to be dating a lot of women, then going on a lot of traditional dates may hurt your wallet. In most people’s cases, it will. If it doesn’t well then you could have a lot more money in it that you could use on you. There is a difference between being cheap and being smart. I do not spend a lot of money on women. Many men will go out with a girl, buy her a lot of drinks. Run up there credit cards, trying to buy there attention. They seem to think that by spending a lot of money on a girl that they will buy there attention and affection. The truth of the reality is, it does the exact opposite. More often then not, it puts unnecessary pressure on both parties and will more likely lead you to failure than to the amount of success that you could be having.
Instead of doing the conventional dates. Try being creative and doing something new.
If it is a first date especially. Instead, try taking her to a state park. Somewhere of interest. Think of a place that she probably never has been, something she probably has never done or at least hasn’t done in a long while. This will set you apart from all of the other guys because you are unique, diffrent, creative, and just the excitement she was looking for to snap her out of her own boring lifestyle.
A park is a great place to start. There are many things to do in a local park. Great places to take her hiking, sites to see. Depending on your location, you can take her to caves, rock climbing, or just a great place to go and hang out. (Not to mention it’s free!) That’s our little secret.
Meeting up somewhere is another idea. I’ve even picked gas stations, or just about anywhere, and go on a walk with them. It’s not the activity that you are doing, it’s what you make of it. It lets you spit your game, and interact with her. Opportunities to flirt too, “Hey, that looks like it would hurt” (push her into it). Along with the it doesn’t matter where you take her it’s what you do concept. I have met up with girls, from online at Wal-Mart of all places. Walked around in a department store, and made out with them in a back isle somewhere. Again, it’s all what you make of things. Life is, what you make of it.
Bike rides, it’s not something you do everyday, plus they are a lot of fun. Also keeps her in shape too. The main idea, is to do things out of the norm so it creates memories. Those memories will create a bond. Anytime that you do anything with someone, that creates a surplus in emotions, an emotional connection is made. Often referred to as Emotional Overflow Connection.
If you are a redneck, you might consider taking her 4 wheeling with you. Or go off roading with her. If she has never been than it will be an even better experience! It is something that she can go back and brag to her friends about how awesome you are! Make her friends jealous. Girls love to brag to there friends, to raise there own social value with in there social circle.
You can take them swimming as well. This is great for many reasons, you get to see them in a bikini, get a very good idea for what they’d look like naked with you. I prefer and would recommend taking them somewhere that is less public. More secluded, so it is just the two of you going swimming. This might now be possible for all of you reading this if you live in the city. For those that live in the rural areas and country side, you know where to go. Be creative! Going to the normal beach will do fine as well.
The point is that it doesn’t matter where you go, it’s what you do with where you are. How the two of you interact, how you flirt. The ideas that where listed above are great because it gives you a chance to talk to her, tease her, touch her. ect. If you think about it, taking her 4 wheeling, she is on the back, holding on while you rip through the trails, she’s holding onto you, and getting very comfortable with being close to you. The possibilities are endless. The important thing is to take her and do things with her that you like to do. It’s a great way to see if you can spend time with her, if you where interested in her for a relationship later on.
As an added tip, I recommend that you make a list somewhere on your computer or where ever is accessible to you, of all the great things you can do in your local area, if you are out of ideas. If you can’t think of anything to do, go look at the list for things you’ve done in the past, or things that you would like to go do. Pick one, and you are on your way! Doing this, you will never run out of fun and creative things to do. Everyday will be a new adventure.
If you want to date multiple women with out breaking the bank these are some ideas you might want to look into. They save you money, and put you farther ahead of the game, than any dude who takes there girl to the same old dinner and a movie.
-Big Q-
This article was first published on the Seduction University forums.
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